Social Services are badly needed in this day and age of drugs and drink which is the major cause of abuse to children. The problem is so huge that the social services can't cope. They need to use every means available for protecting children, like the army of grandparents and extended family that they ignore and treat with disrespect. Social services are so wrapped up in their own self importance and think they can cope but the constant bad publicity, some of it featured in our bloghttp://chatterboxblogforyou.blogspot.com/2010/07/father-wrongly-accused-in-flawed-abuse.html is SHOUTING out they can’t. It shows a total neglect and disregard for our children’s welfare as a whole and any person connected to children that are unfortunate enough to come in contact with them.
The question is! Are social services working in the best interests of the children or their own uncaring ruthless agenda in cost cutting?
It is right to watch expenditure but it appears the way social services work, is like a well run business any director would be proud. Concentrating on keeping costs to a minimum is doing more harm than good.. The problem here is, it is children they are dealing with and their cost cutting in children’s welfare is depriving them of adequate care and leads to more cost when they feel rejected by society. With no sense of self worth they turn to the ever increasing number of gangs for that belonging feeling like so many of the children before them who have passed through the care system
The present system is coming apart and doing more harm than good to society It is not only destroying the young lives of our children but disgusting their own social workers as well.
Jimmy Deuchars
Grandparents Apart
22 Alness crescent
0141 882 5658
http://www.grandparentsapart.co.uk
Frequently Asked Questions
A, . Grandparents do not have an automatic legal right of conta~t. However anyone who meets the criteria that contact would be in the child's best interest, has a right to go to court to seek contact with any child.
A, Yes, Mediation. Scottish- Family Mediation
A, Contact our group or another grandparents group to familiarise yourself about the situation. We won't just tell you what you want to hear, we expect you to examine your own actions and be prepared to give and take. You may have to approach the situation with a different attitude. Remember it is for your grandchildren.
A, Record everything. If you are still getting some contact record dates and times etc. Do not get involved in any arguments or fights as this could be the excuse for a court order to be taken out against you preventing all contact.Perhaps another family member could help diffuse the situation.
A, We have all been through what you are going through at this moment. If we can point someone in the right direction all the better. We are not lawyers and do not give legal advice but by sharing our experience we have helped thousands of grandparents over our ten years in this field. Hopefully we can help you too.
A, Due to the magic of email and good communications we cover the whole of the
A, We have raised the profile of grandparents dramatically over the years and with our nvolvement the Scottish Government created The Charter of Grandchildren; a document which reminds us all that the children are the priority, while explaining the positive role grandparents can play in their life.
Telephone helpline 0141 8825658 or emailjames@grandparents.fsnet.co.uk We also have local monthly
meetings and all grandparents denied contact with their grandchildren are welcome to come along.
A, The first step is to contact a Family Law Solicitor. Scottish Law Society, 0131 4768168. English Law Society 08456086565 You can find details in the phone book or on the Family Law website.
A, This depends on many things and your solicitor will help you with this.
A, The legal process does not move quickly and can take years to reach a conclusion?
A, Yes if you feel the child is in danger.
A, Be aware that Social Services sometimes take control rather than help and support. Go along with
everything they ask of you and be amiable. If you disagree or question their decisions you will be labelled
un-cooperative and ignored.
Q, Social Services are shutting me out, what can I do?
A, Ask for an explanation of their decisions. Contact the social worker's supervisor, then head of Social
Services. There is ultimately a head of Social Services within the council and their name and contact details
Wales Public Services Ombudsman 1 Ffordd yr Hen Gae, Pencoed, CF35 5LJ Tel: (01656) 641 150 Fax: (01656) 641 199.
Northern Ireland Ombudsman, Freepost, Belfast BT1 6BR (Tel: 0800 34 34 24 or 028 9023 3821; Fax: 028 9023 4912 Email: ombudsman@ni-ombudsman.org.uk.
Greater London 21 Queen Anne's Gate, London SW1H 9BU (Tel: 020 7915 3210; Fax: 020 7233 0396)
Birmingham, Staffordshire, Shropshire, Cheshire, Derbyshire, Nottinghamshire, Lincolnshire and the north of England
Beverley House, 17 Shipton Road, York YO30 5FZ (Tel: 01904 663200; Fax: 01904 663269)
All of southern England (except London), East Anglia, the south-west and most of central England
The Oaks No 2, Westwood Way, Westwood Business Park, Coventry CV4 8JB (Tel: 024 7669 5999; Fax: 024 7669 5902)
Q, Are you in favour of either parent?.
A, No! We believe there should be equal parenting withgrandparents as a back up for the welfare of children. We have no intentions of taking over or step on any parents toes, just to be considered more if the children are alone or have been abused or taken into care rather than go to strangers.
A, Yes. Send in our letter asking your local councillor to raise making the Charter for Grandparents mandatory for professionals that work in the welfare of children. As well as informing as many MPs MSPs as you can that you would like to see this change.
Grandparents Apart
22 Alness crescent
0141 882 5658
http://www.grandparentsapart.co.uk
The Charter for Grandchildren
Grandchildren can expect:
· To be treated fairly
· To know and maintain contact with their family (except in very exceptional circumstances) and other people who are important to them.
· To know that their grandparents still love them, even if they are not able to see them at the present time.
· To know their family history.
· The adults in their lives to put their needs first and to protect them from disputes between adults - not to use them as weapons in quarrels between adults.
· Social workers , when making assessments about their lives, to take into account the loving and supporting role grandparents can play in their lives.
· The Courts, when making decisions about their lives, to take into account the loving and supporting role grandparents can play in their lives.
· Lawyers and other advisers to encourage relationship counseling or mediation when adults seek advice on matters affecting them and their children.
Grandparents Apart
http://www.grandparentsapart.co.uk A Scottish Registered Volunteer Charity No. SC 031558
Letter to your member of Parliament.
With their ten years of experiences and what my grandchildren and I are suffering I feel justified in supporting this proposal and would be obliged if you would make it an issue in parliament. I believe a Government created this Charter and therefore they should ensure its effectiveness.
The Proposal:-
We therefore propose that ‘The Charter for Grandchildren’ ‘ The role grandparent can play in their grandchildren’s lives’ should be made Mandatory for Professionals dealing with children thereby ensuring in the absence of one or both parents that the love and protective role grandparents can play in their lives is not wasted as is the case at present because grandparents are regarded as irrelevant persons and scarcelyconsidered in practice.…
Being mandatory for professionals would mean
the children have the right to expect the best from their grandparents or an explanation why not.
Grandparents Apart
We can bring it to the notice of the government but it needs you the constituent to back it up.
I understand this statement will be treated as completely-confidential.
I look forward to your reply.
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Letter to your local district councillor.
The Proposal:-
We therefore propose that ‘The Charter for Grandchildren’ ‘ The role grandparents can play in their grandchildren’s lives’ should be made Mandatory for Professionals like social services dealing with children thereby ensuring in the absence of one or both parents that the love and protective role grandparents can play in their lives is not wasted as is the case at present because grandparents are regarded as irrelevant persons and scarcely considered in practice.…
Being mandatory for professionals would mean the children have the right to expect the best from their grandparents or an explanation to the contrary..
I look forward to your reply.
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f adults are not speaking there are contact centres for keeping children in contact with the wider family, a place where warring adults do not even have to meet at all. (until they grow up and think of the children’s welfare).
Grandparents Apart
22 Alness crescent
0141 882 5658
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From Charlie
ReplyDeleteHI JIMMY YOU ARE RIGHT BUT REALLY IT IS MOST OFF THE TIME THE ONES AT THE TOP OFF THE TREE AND ITS THE POOR WORKERS THAT ARE ON THE SHOP FLOOR THAT ARE MADE SCAPEGOATS, THEY DO ALL THE REPORTS JUST LEAVE IT TO ME I WILL SORT IT OUT BUT UKNOWN TO THE ONES ON THE SHOP FLOOR THEY ARE GETTING STABBED IN THE BACK. AND SADLY IT IS ONLY WHEN THERE IS A FATALITY THAT IT COMES TO LIGHT I KNOW FOR A FACT THERE ARE SO MANY SOCIAL WORKERS HAVE LEFT BECAUSE THEY CANT STAND THE CRUELTY THATS GOING ON DRUG ADDICTS ARE LEFT WITH THERE CHILDREN WHEN IT SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN THE BOSSES AT THE TOP OFF THE TREE INSTEAD OF RULING WITH THERE HEART THEY ARE RULING WITH THE PURSE. ALL TO GET A PAT ON THE BACK AT THE END OFF THE FINANCIAL YEAR WELL DONE. AND THEY ARE CUTTING THERE OWN THROAT AS THERE ALLOWANCE IS CUT THE FOLLOWING YEAR. AND SO IT GOES ON
JIMMY I HAVE SAID IT TIME AND AGAIN I WOULD LOVE TO SEE AN AUDIT DONE ON THE AMOUNT OFF SOCIAL WORKERS THAT ARE SHORT ON THE GROUND .THEY ARE JUST A LAW UNTO THEMSELFS ITS TIME THEY HAD SOMEONE SAYING TO THEM WHAT DOEST THOU.ITS JUST DIGUSTING WOULD THEY DO THINGS LIKE THAT TO THERE OWN FAMILY. I MIND WHEN I FIRST STARTED NURSING THERE WAS ONE OLD CHARGE NURSE SAID DONT LOOK SO WORRIED JUST TREAT THEM THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TREATED YOURSELF.AND I NEVER FORGOT THESE WISE WORDS AND USED THEM MANY TIMES TO FELLOW WORKERS. AND ANOTHER THING HE SAID DONT WORRY ABOUT THE HIGHER ARKIE THEY ARE NO BETTER THAN YOURSELF, THERE ONLY DOING A JOB THE SAME AS YOURSELF
You are absolutey right. First and foremost when parents are drugging or
ReplyDeletedrinking or both, the Grandparents and aunts and uncles should be first
choice of safe placement of the children. If only social services had placed my
brother and me in an orphanage (no grandparents or aunts or uncles), we
would have been so much better off. I often went to Dr. Bernarndo's for tea
with my friends and wonder why the staff never asked me why I came there so
often? I might well have told them and asked for my brother to come with me.
Our lives would have been much different. Now social services are caring
for my alcoholic brother with paranoid delusional behavior due to brain
damage. Helpin our childhood could have prevented that. I do not drink or smoke
and function well. It really is so sad that children are not cared for as
they should be 60 years later.
Anon