"Bringing Families Together"

"Bringing Families Together"

Monday, November 22, 2010

Remember the grandparents. - They suffer in the same way too

Remember the grandparents. - They suffer in the same way too
by Tim Line on Sunday, 21 November 2010 at 19:48

This harrowing story was shared with me by a lovely lady who read the 'Bereavement without end' post I shared with you. She gave me permission to share it.

"I lost my granddaughter three plus years ago. The pain that I live with everyday sometimes feels no longer bearable. I try to get through each day hoping no one will notice how truly sad I am. I try to "go on" with my life appreciating all that life does offer. I have other grandchildren that love and want me and I try so hard to be supportive of them; but my heart is broken over the loss of my first born grandchild. There are days when I wake up and tears are flowing down my face before my eyes are even open and I have to force myself to get through another day.

My grandchild did not die of a terminal disease; she was not taken from me in an unexpected accident; she is a victim of Parental Alienation.

My grandchild is alive and well and living just a few short hours from me, but wants nothing to do with me "anymore". We had a very close, loving, trusting relationship for 12 + years; until she went to live with her father. It only took a few weeks for him to turn her totally against me.

I ask myself, "how is it possible, for him to break a bond that took 12 years to establish"; and " how could he have done this to his own child; deprive her of her grandmother’s love"; and " why would he do this";

I don’t have the answers.

I do have the heartache. Losing a child to a vindictive parent hurts just as much as losing them to a fatal illness or accident

If this doesn't move you then you are dead to the world.


  1. Thank you for sharing this.
    These feelings are mirrored by all the grandparents in my group, and I know in Grandparents Apart UK.
    I don't have the answers either, but I do send my support and love to you.
    We all continue to wait for our knock on the door.x

  2. I Understand, I Sympathise, I Empathise, But None Of Those Feelings Will Make You Or I Feel Better. Unfortunately In Todays Modern Society, Old Fashioned Family Values No Longer Exist, Respect Is Like A Four Letter Word To Some People. Children Are Use And Manipulated By Vindictive Adults Without Any Real Understanding Of What Is Going On And The Effect It May Have On Grand-Parents And Family That They Once Loved. We All Cry, I Did Yesterday, But It Is Not The Answer, People With The Formidable Strength Of Jane Might Eventually Provide An Answer, All That She Needs Is Your Support And Mine, She Is An Inspiration To Me And Many Others As Well, And Together We Might Eventually All Bring About Change, But We Need To Be United With One Single Common Goal In Order To Be Heard And Acknowledged By The Powers That Be. So Choke Back The Tears And Lend Me Your Ears, Make Use Of Your Voice, You Do Have A Choice, Join Us And Fight, Stand Up For Your Right, Don't Give Up Without A Fight, Don't Lie Down And Die, And Don't Lie Down And Cry, Stand Up And Be Counted, Don't Let Her Fade Away, Try To Win Her Back Someday, You Must Fight To Win, On This Day Must Begin Resolution To Bring About Change, Join Us And Unite, We Will Put Up A Hell Of A Fight Because We Know We Are Right, And We Will Win In The End. Mark x

  3. Jimmy, Please Pass This Poem On To The Lady You Have Mentioned, I Hope That It Makes Her Feel A Little Bit Better, Knowing That She Is Not Alone In Her Fight.