Casualities of the Festive Season alcohol and drug binges.
This is a common case of using a child for blackmail and manipulation of the parental grandparents. (‘The forgotten Children’ we call them) The Charter for Grandchildren created by a Scottish Government was supposed to be guidelines to help but how do you get someone on drugs to comply willingly.
The present government has passed the buck for the administration of the Charter to the local authorities to be made mandatory for professionals which Glasgow City Council will consider shortly. We ask you support this.
This granny who holds a prominent position in a very respectable profession phoned me this morning in a terrible state. She is not sure if there is abuse. She is very reluctant to involve social services because grandparents are often ignored and told they are just making mischief and it is their grandparent/grandchild relationship that loses out as they are not relevant in their grandchildren’s lives.
Now it seems drugs are taking over the mother and the child is being alienated from the ones who are closest to her. Who is there to help this child now when the situation worsens? There is a history of the mother leaving her daughter with strangers for days on end and the son met her the other day and she was stoned out of her mind and hadn’t seen her daughter for days. The granny is extremely worried about her granddaughter although she said she thinks there is no abuse but there is a lot of shouting and verbal abuse and abusive texts from the mother. All of which has been recorded.
The father is on disability and partner has split up and he pays money every week for his child through CSA. He has also been paying a demand from the mother of £20.00p per week to maintain contact with his child of 2 years old.
The granny did have contact with her grandchild but due to her son and partner falling out over Christmas she has now been told her contact is now once a month take it or leave it, which has distressed her very much as she has a close relationship with her granddaughter and know it will upset the child also.
I have advised her to contact social services if she feels the child is in danger and suggested trying mediation to come to some agreement for the sake of the child. She will try. I will send her contacts for all of this. She feels a lawyer is her only way to go. I told her to make sure it is a family lawyer she contacts.
Name and address supplied.
Grandparents Apart UK
22 Alness crescent
Glasgow G52 1PJ
0141 882 5658